Why do we get afraid of what lies ahead of us? At times, we would feel uncertain about particular stuffs and then we end up backing up. We get nervous every time we try something new, or even those we've already done yet brings too much fear and anxieties in our hearts.
I'll have to swallow back my fears once again and try to take the challenge. It's not gonna be that easy, there'll be butterflies in my stomach and shivers down my spine. It will all pass. I'll get through this and I'll be giving it my best shot, or at least I hope I could. Everything's gonna be fine, I'm an unshakable optimist, after all. :)
Sunday, November 21, 2010
Saturday, September 18, 2010
CHANGE
"There's nothing constant in this world except change."
Indeed!
We can't stop things from changing, as much as we can't stop things from happening. There are instances in life when we feel so contented with something, but this doesn't guarantee us that it'll last forever.
Things have to change because they have to. We might not be able to see why for now, but in the end, the real meaning would reveal itself right before our very eyes.
As things change, I can't help but miss the way things used to be. It hurts to see things falling apart. I didn't thought that it'll go this far - this worse.
I always play safe. I used to believe that it would help. I guess this is enough evidence to prove that I am weak. I have to admit that I really am. I can't speak what's on my mind, I just scribble all my thoughts in piece of paper and then it's all over.
I am not a big fan of confrontations. I am scared to get hurt by the words they utter. I don't want to speak because I'm afraid that I might not be able to support and sustain it.
I am easily intimidated. The tone of your voice, or even the mere expression in your eyes could make me feel inferior.
I can't seem to understand why things have to reach this point. I am for peace, but life has its own way of giving me a taste of reality that chaos is part of existence.
It feels bad when you're placed in the middle of something when i fact, you are not really required to be there. I don't want to take sides, but what can I do?
Things are different now, but I still don't have enough courage to make them realize that it's for their own good. The intention is not to bring them down, but it could help them re-check their personalities and become better individuals. They can't be right all the time, we all commit mistakes.
I hope that things would soon be fine. Things change, and what's good about it is that worse scenarios do change too.
Indeed!
We can't stop things from changing, as much as we can't stop things from happening. There are instances in life when we feel so contented with something, but this doesn't guarantee us that it'll last forever.
Things have to change because they have to. We might not be able to see why for now, but in the end, the real meaning would reveal itself right before our very eyes.
As things change, I can't help but miss the way things used to be. It hurts to see things falling apart. I didn't thought that it'll go this far - this worse.
I always play safe. I used to believe that it would help. I guess this is enough evidence to prove that I am weak. I have to admit that I really am. I can't speak what's on my mind, I just scribble all my thoughts in piece of paper and then it's all over.
I am not a big fan of confrontations. I am scared to get hurt by the words they utter. I don't want to speak because I'm afraid that I might not be able to support and sustain it.
I am easily intimidated. The tone of your voice, or even the mere expression in your eyes could make me feel inferior.
I can't seem to understand why things have to reach this point. I am for peace, but life has its own way of giving me a taste of reality that chaos is part of existence.
It feels bad when you're placed in the middle of something when i fact, you are not really required to be there. I don't want to take sides, but what can I do?
Things are different now, but I still don't have enough courage to make them realize that it's for their own good. The intention is not to bring them down, but it could help them re-check their personalities and become better individuals. They can't be right all the time, we all commit mistakes.
I hope that things would soon be fine. Things change, and what's good about it is that worse scenarios do change too.
Saturday, September 11, 2010
Legal!
Grown up!
Yesterday, September 10, 2010, marked a new journey for me. Life is indeed a challenge, a journey and most of all…a gift.
I am more than grateful for having been blessed with such a wonderful life, a life full of enchanting memories and priceless realizations.
Now that I have officially turned legal, a new set of challenges awaits me. I have to be properly geared in order for me to get through the obstacles. The things I’ve learned for the last 18 years would serve as my weapon as I enter this whole new world.
The pages of my childhood had run out, thus, I have to flip the page and start with another chapter. This new chapter will be filled with surprises, overflowed with memories and equipped with learning and discoveries. This would serve as my turning point from being a child to becoming a lady.
A lot is expected from me now. May God guide me as I take this challenge and as I start this new journey.
There’s no turning back. The game is on!
Yesterday, September 10, 2010, marked a new journey for me. Life is indeed a challenge, a journey and most of all…a gift.
I am more than grateful for having been blessed with such a wonderful life, a life full of enchanting memories and priceless realizations.
Now that I have officially turned legal, a new set of challenges awaits me. I have to be properly geared in order for me to get through the obstacles. The things I’ve learned for the last 18 years would serve as my weapon as I enter this whole new world.
The pages of my childhood had run out, thus, I have to flip the page and start with another chapter. This new chapter will be filled with surprises, overflowed with memories and equipped with learning and discoveries. This would serve as my turning point from being a child to becoming a lady.
A lot is expected from me now. May God guide me as I take this challenge and as I start this new journey.
There’s no turning back. The game is on!
Wednesday, September 8, 2010
My Mama!
I have written about my father already, now it's time for me to give credits to my mom.
My mother is such a loving, supportive and patient woman. She is a thoughtful mom as well. People have known her as a very kind-hearted person. Indeed! She really is. She's understanding and doesn't even get mad easily. I've learned how to become patient and understanding because of the examples she has set before us.
I am very blessed to have her as my mother. She never cease to show us her love. I could still remember the very first time she got really mad at me. Recalling that memory makes me guilty and yet it makes me laugh as well. Can you believe that I actually did let her chase after me? Yes, I really did! I was afraid that she's going to hit me, so I ran around the house as fast as I could. Unfortunately, she managed to catch up and I ended up being scolded. I have realized that we should never abuse the goodness shown to us by others.
I could even remember some instances when she covers up for me every time i did something. She helps us in asking permission from Papa, considering that Papa is really strict.
We have some things in common: COFFEE!!! Can't live without coffee. Wherever we go, we would always have 3-in-1 instant coffee in our bags. We both love PEACE. We just chose to remain silent to avoid further conflicts. FAITH. We are both firm believers. BE POSITIVE. We have the same positive outlook towards life. We consider problems as challenges and not additional burdens. These are among the things we have in common, or should I say, the things I learned and adopted from her.
Recently, I really appreciate what she's doing in preparation for my post-debut celebration. I am not expecting a lot, but it seems like she's really working on it. I wasn't able to contribute much, so far. All I did was gave her the list of guests. I am glad that she's putting so much effort for this event. I am truly grateful.
It is also good that we are able to have some time to talk about anything under the sun. I share a lot to her, even my love life. She knows my crushes, she could identify my suitors, and she even knows my type. I just feel comfortable sharing all these stuffs with her. She gives me pieces of advice, and she tells me how to handle things whenever it comes my way.
She would constantly remind me of how important it is to call on God every time. I owe a lot from my mom. She may have lapses sometimes but what matters is that she gives her best in everything she do. She is such a "mapag paraya" type of person. She sees to it that we have our cups full first before pouring something for herself.
I love you Mama!!! Thank you for everything!!!
:)
My mother is such a loving, supportive and patient woman. She is a thoughtful mom as well. People have known her as a very kind-hearted person. Indeed! She really is. She's understanding and doesn't even get mad easily. I've learned how to become patient and understanding because of the examples she has set before us.
I am very blessed to have her as my mother. She never cease to show us her love. I could still remember the very first time she got really mad at me. Recalling that memory makes me guilty and yet it makes me laugh as well. Can you believe that I actually did let her chase after me? Yes, I really did! I was afraid that she's going to hit me, so I ran around the house as fast as I could. Unfortunately, she managed to catch up and I ended up being scolded. I have realized that we should never abuse the goodness shown to us by others.
I could even remember some instances when she covers up for me every time i did something. She helps us in asking permission from Papa, considering that Papa is really strict.
We have some things in common: COFFEE!!! Can't live without coffee. Wherever we go, we would always have 3-in-1 instant coffee in our bags. We both love PEACE. We just chose to remain silent to avoid further conflicts. FAITH. We are both firm believers. BE POSITIVE. We have the same positive outlook towards life. We consider problems as challenges and not additional burdens. These are among the things we have in common, or should I say, the things I learned and adopted from her.
Recently, I really appreciate what she's doing in preparation for my post-debut celebration. I am not expecting a lot, but it seems like she's really working on it. I wasn't able to contribute much, so far. All I did was gave her the list of guests. I am glad that she's putting so much effort for this event. I am truly grateful.
It is also good that we are able to have some time to talk about anything under the sun. I share a lot to her, even my love life. She knows my crushes, she could identify my suitors, and she even knows my type. I just feel comfortable sharing all these stuffs with her. She gives me pieces of advice, and she tells me how to handle things whenever it comes my way.
She would constantly remind me of how important it is to call on God every time. I owe a lot from my mom. She may have lapses sometimes but what matters is that she gives her best in everything she do. She is such a "mapag paraya" type of person. She sees to it that we have our cups full first before pouring something for herself.
I love you Mama!!! Thank you for everything!!!
:)
Tuesday, August 31, 2010
My Papa!
There comes a time when I just can't help but look back to those years when I am still younger. My formation years served as my guide and basically the foundation of who I've become. Tears would occasionally threaten my eyes every time I remember some of my parents' words of wisdom.
When I was younger, I would always look at my father with fear. I am afraid that he might scold me for something I have done. I am always trembling every time I come across him. I am afraid to look at his eyes, it seems like they could shrink me until I become invisible. I look up to my dad, he has always been a strong man to me. When he commands, everyone follows. He has been strict ever since. He wants things to go the way they should, he wants all of us to learn the essential values of life. He is surely the head of the family, the one with great authority.
I envy my cousin every time she fools around her father. I wanted to experience that too. I wanted to know how it feels to crack a joke to my father and tease him without him being offended. Making my dad mad has a terrible consequence. I wasn't close to my dad then.
Now, I am more than grateful for finally having the chance to mingle with my father without barriers. When I was already studying away from home, I could feel that we are slowly drawing closer to one another. It feels really great to laugh with my dad, I have then realized that he's not that scary after all. He's still strict, but I've learned to appreciate it knowing that it's one way of showing me that he truly cares. We would usually tease each other and I even hit him sometimes. My dad and I became really close now. There are even times when we would text each other and I would honestly forget that I'm texting with my father.
Now, I've learned to appreciate everything about my dad. He might have made a "scary" first impression, but he sure did manage to change what we thought about him. I will never forget his lines such as; "Kamo man ang gapanday sa inung kaugma-on".(You are the ones building your own future). He wants us to become successful in the future, which is basically the reason why he did whatever he can do to keep us on the right track. I can still remember that I cried when he said these words; "Skwela jud mo'g tarong kay mao ra jud na among mapamana nimu, wala man ta'y uma para among ika habilin ninu". (Do good in your studies for this is the only treasure that we could pass on to you. We don't have huge fields and other properties for you to inherit.)
My dad may not be perfect, but I am glad and really proud that he's doing his best in order for us to have a better way of living. He, himself, has done a lot of mistakes in the past and he wants us to avoid committing the same mistakes. He is a loving father, understanding and caring. We find it hard to ask something from him, but if we do he never disappoints us. As long as he is capable of giving, he will surely provide.
He might seem like a tough man, but what lies beyond is a kind and soft heart. He is such a compassionate father. I owe a lot from him, even the way I look (Sa kanya aq nag mana).
Thank you. Words can't totally express how much I appreciate you.
I love you so so much papa!!!
:)
When I was younger, I would always look at my father with fear. I am afraid that he might scold me for something I have done. I am always trembling every time I come across him. I am afraid to look at his eyes, it seems like they could shrink me until I become invisible. I look up to my dad, he has always been a strong man to me. When he commands, everyone follows. He has been strict ever since. He wants things to go the way they should, he wants all of us to learn the essential values of life. He is surely the head of the family, the one with great authority.
I envy my cousin every time she fools around her father. I wanted to experience that too. I wanted to know how it feels to crack a joke to my father and tease him without him being offended. Making my dad mad has a terrible consequence. I wasn't close to my dad then.
Now, I am more than grateful for finally having the chance to mingle with my father without barriers. When I was already studying away from home, I could feel that we are slowly drawing closer to one another. It feels really great to laugh with my dad, I have then realized that he's not that scary after all. He's still strict, but I've learned to appreciate it knowing that it's one way of showing me that he truly cares. We would usually tease each other and I even hit him sometimes. My dad and I became really close now. There are even times when we would text each other and I would honestly forget that I'm texting with my father.
Now, I've learned to appreciate everything about my dad. He might have made a "scary" first impression, but he sure did manage to change what we thought about him. I will never forget his lines such as; "Kamo man ang gapanday sa inung kaugma-on".(You are the ones building your own future). He wants us to become successful in the future, which is basically the reason why he did whatever he can do to keep us on the right track. I can still remember that I cried when he said these words; "Skwela jud mo'g tarong kay mao ra jud na among mapamana nimu, wala man ta'y uma para among ika habilin ninu". (Do good in your studies for this is the only treasure that we could pass on to you. We don't have huge fields and other properties for you to inherit.)
My dad may not be perfect, but I am glad and really proud that he's doing his best in order for us to have a better way of living. He, himself, has done a lot of mistakes in the past and he wants us to avoid committing the same mistakes. He is a loving father, understanding and caring. We find it hard to ask something from him, but if we do he never disappoints us. As long as he is capable of giving, he will surely provide.
He might seem like a tough man, but what lies beyond is a kind and soft heart. He is such a compassionate father. I owe a lot from him, even the way I look (Sa kanya aq nag mana).
Thank you. Words can't totally express how much I appreciate you.
I love you so so much papa!!!
:)
Sunday, August 29, 2010
I don't know why, but I am actually having a hard time keeping up with negative behaviors.
I don't want to hate people just because of the things they use to do, or the things they are continuously doing, for that matter. It's quite easy for me to let something pass, but I've got a little problem with the "forgetting" part. I don't want to judge others, it's just that I can't see the point why they continue doing things even though they already know that its not the right thing to do. Why can't some people just learn from the mistakes they've had during their previous experiences? Is it really that hard, that people just can no longer seem to know what is right?
I'm not saying that I'm perfect. I also commit mistakes, to err is human, anyway. I also do silly and stupid things. I do things which should not be done, I break rules, and I also sin. These all comes naturally, we are all sinners. I just find it hard to forget the wrong doings done by others, especially by my peers.
It might seem that I don't care, but actually I get affected as well. I think I've already done my part in giving pieces of advice. I have shown my concern, and I have been there to listen, even though all I wanted to say was "I told you so".
How could I ever let people know how much their losing by playing blind? I just hope that they'll be able to realize their mistakes and eventually start changing their beliefs. I, too, am hoping to see how to get over my selfish convictions and become better. May we all find it in our hearts to accept our failures and start making a change. This is surely something we can do, someday, somehow.
:)
I don't want to hate people just because of the things they use to do, or the things they are continuously doing, for that matter. It's quite easy for me to let something pass, but I've got a little problem with the "forgetting" part. I don't want to judge others, it's just that I can't see the point why they continue doing things even though they already know that its not the right thing to do. Why can't some people just learn from the mistakes they've had during their previous experiences? Is it really that hard, that people just can no longer seem to know what is right?
I'm not saying that I'm perfect. I also commit mistakes, to err is human, anyway. I also do silly and stupid things. I do things which should not be done, I break rules, and I also sin. These all comes naturally, we are all sinners. I just find it hard to forget the wrong doings done by others, especially by my peers.
It might seem that I don't care, but actually I get affected as well. I think I've already done my part in giving pieces of advice. I have shown my concern, and I have been there to listen, even though all I wanted to say was "I told you so".
How could I ever let people know how much their losing by playing blind? I just hope that they'll be able to realize their mistakes and eventually start changing their beliefs. I, too, am hoping to see how to get over my selfish convictions and become better. May we all find it in our hearts to accept our failures and start making a change. This is surely something we can do, someday, somehow.
:)
Friday, August 27, 2010
my favorite topic
LIFE!
Life is indeed a challenging journey, roads could get rough and our struggles may become tough. It is full of surprises wherein things happen even if we don’t want them to. Its unfair most of the time and it brings a lot of disappointments as well. Life may not be a bed of roses, but it teaches us how to deal with the thorns.
Living is a struggle, but it is also a blessing. Problems would always come our way and try to pull us down. These are only spices of life. They are not meant to destroy us; but rather, they exist in order to mold us into someone we are destined to be. Dealing with these trials would require a lot of effort, but rest assured; it will all be worth it.
When things doesn’t seem to go your way, don’t take it against life. It is suppose to challenge you, thus bringing out the best in you.
In this journey, nothing is certain. We have to experience things which happen beyond our control, through this we could learn and see for ourselves how things really work.
Life is a trial-and-error process; we make decisions which would eventually teach us how to go about the different twist-and-turns of life. It is gives us a lot of opportunities to learn and discover what lies beyond what we see. It causes us to stumble and fall, yet it also teaches us how to become strong enough to stand up ones more.
Life is a matter of choice, as they say. We get to choose which way we want to go; hence we are given the freedom. This freedom doesn’t actually mean that we can do anything, even the evil ones. This only gives us the freewill to do what is right and just. It is a blessing bestowed upon us, which should be used in accordance to God’s intentions.
We’ll never know what life may bring and we can’t predict whatever it is that awaits us. What matters is that we are always ready to cope up and willing to face every challenge that may come along the way. Life is a battle, and it gets even tougher when we have to do it against ourselves.
Life is a learning process, it teaches us a lot about reality and it makes us realize many things through varied circumstances. It allows us to experience defeat in order for us to have a better taste of success. Victory becomes sweeter if we’ve been through bitter encounters. Indeed, there’s a purpose why we have to go through hell sometimes, especially in our drive towards what we desire.
The wheel of life makes us realize that change is a constant reality about life. At times, we could reach the heights of happiness and success, but there comes a time when we just can’t help but feel so low about ourselves. We can’t stay at the top forever, we just have to experience fall backs so that we could keep the fire burning within us. This would serve as our motivation to continuously strive for what we aim for.
In the midst of difficulties, there’s no point in rushing. All we need is to take our time in evaluating ourselves and think of what we can do to get through the obstacle. Life is so simple; we should not make it complicated.
Life is such a great gift. Treasure it. Enjoy it. :)
Wonderful!
I'm facing my blogger account without knowing what to write about. All I know is that I don't feel so good. Why? Well, I just happen to discover something about somebody. I am quite certain that I no longer like him the way I've liked him before, but why do I feel sad about him having a crush on somebody else? And it's so bothering that the girl he's pursuing now is actually a classmate of mine. What a drama! Anyway, it doesn't matter anymore.
Indeed, everything happens for a reason. I may have lost one of my so-called "crushes", but I'm so glad to have a "replacement". (Evil laugh) I've already seen him around the campus and I find him really cute. He's always with his friends, and by the way most of his friends are girls. At first, I thought that he's in a relationship with one of his friends. Fortunately, he's not!!! His friends are no longer strangers for me, since we've already known each other when we joined a common organization. How convenient isn't it? This makes my new found crush "accessible". (Grin)
Oh well, yesterday was such an amazing day. Fresh from the intense competition, we strolled around the campus and when we made our way out of the school, we saw their "barkada". They were like having a picnic or something and that was already around 8:00 in the evening. We dropped by and we joined their little picnic. I never thought that I'd be able to sit right across him, how magical! hahaha...
He's eyes are really cute, and I discovered that he's not just another pretty face; he has a great sense of humor as well. Very much my type! He shared his own jokes and his punch lines are naturally funny. Whew!
I didn't saw him earlier this day, his not coming to school, I suppose. Their "barkada" agreed not to attend the school activities today, but no worries, I'll see him again tomorrow anyway...
The most wonderful part of last night's little gathering is that I was able to add more friends on my list. Aside from the ones we knew from the organization, we also found new acquaintances.
Wonderful!!!
:)
Indeed, everything happens for a reason. I may have lost one of my so-called "crushes", but I'm so glad to have a "replacement". (Evil laugh) I've already seen him around the campus and I find him really cute. He's always with his friends, and by the way most of his friends are girls. At first, I thought that he's in a relationship with one of his friends. Fortunately, he's not!!! His friends are no longer strangers for me, since we've already known each other when we joined a common organization. How convenient isn't it? This makes my new found crush "accessible". (Grin)
Oh well, yesterday was such an amazing day. Fresh from the intense competition, we strolled around the campus and when we made our way out of the school, we saw their "barkada". They were like having a picnic or something and that was already around 8:00 in the evening. We dropped by and we joined their little picnic. I never thought that I'd be able to sit right across him, how magical! hahaha...
He's eyes are really cute, and I discovered that he's not just another pretty face; he has a great sense of humor as well. Very much my type! He shared his own jokes and his punch lines are naturally funny. Whew!
I didn't saw him earlier this day, his not coming to school, I suppose. Their "barkada" agreed not to attend the school activities today, but no worries, I'll see him again tomorrow anyway...
The most wonderful part of last night's little gathering is that I was able to add more friends on my list. Aside from the ones we knew from the organization, we also found new acquaintances.
Wonderful!!!
:)
Wednesday, August 25, 2010
Recollection 2010
We had our class recollection this day. I was quite disappointed because i was looking forward to a very fun and memorable recollection.This is my first recollection in college, and as they've told us, we're gonna have the next and the last one after two years. Recollection is no longer new to me since I've had it since I was in elementary. This kind of activity brings excitement to me because i believe that this could open a lot of new doors for me. I am expecting it to help me realize and evaluate who i have become. Unfortunately, i ended up feeling drowsy because it seems that i am having a theology lecture rather than a recollection. Oh well, its done and its over. I am hoping to have a better one two years from now...
:)
:)
Life Indeed
There are actually a lot of wonderful things to cherish in life.
The life we're living now is itself a blessing. We must make every second count, appreciate everything about it. Live life to the fullest, while you still have it.
Strive to be happy!
As the saying goes; "Life is what we make it"...
Let's improve our way of living, so as to contribute in making the world a wonderful place to dwell in.
Rhiely bhaby...
:)
The life we're living now is itself a blessing. We must make every second count, appreciate everything about it. Live life to the fullest, while you still have it.
Strive to be happy!
As the saying goes; "Life is what we make it"...
Let's improve our way of living, so as to contribute in making the world a wonderful place to dwell in.
Rhiely bhaby...
:)
What does love really mean?
Let’s talk about love…
Love is an essential part of life. It is the key to a happy and harmonious living. Through this, peace springs forth. When you love, understanding others can no longer be difficult. At times, we miss to see the real meaning of love, the reality about loving and the concept of being loved.
Love should not be selfish; it gives the other the freedom to do what makes him happy. Love should not be suffocating, it should make the other feel secured and not imprisoned. When you love, you don’t dominate; rather you allow the other to become who he really is. Love is not controlling, but it guides. Love seeks for the good of the other and avoids anything that could destroy the one you love. Love must not be confused with one’s own personal desires. Love is built in respect, trust and understanding. If you want things to go your way all the time and abuse the other, you don’t respect and so it is not love. When you feel doubtful of the things he does all the time, you don’t have trust and it isn’t love. If you don’t get what the other wants and you find it hard to compromise, then you don’t understand and therefore it is not love.
If you really love a person, you should respect him and avoid making him feel that his rights are stepped upon. You allow him to do the things he has to do without doubting about it. You must be confident that he’s not doing anything that could destroy both of you. On the other hand, you must be trust worthy and keep on reminding yourself that you are being trusted. Know that things can’t be at your favor all of the time. Consider what the other wants and what he needs, some things might not be clear for you but you must learn to understand. Also, do not be abusive just because you know that you are understood.
Balance is needed in any relationship; both must take part and should do their roles. When we love, we tend to do things excessively and when we don’t receive the same, we feel cheated. When you love, remember that you must let the other do his part. Don’t make love as an excuse in becoming stupid. If you feel that you are not being loved back, take time to evaluate yourself and see if you have expected too much. The person you loved might have really loved you, but you don’t seem to realize because you give so much and so you expect too much. In loving someone, you love without asking something in return hence it is sincere. When you love don’t give your all, leave something for yourself so that when you stumble, you could still have the courage to stand and become brave enough to love again.
You are indeed fortunate if you are loved. Being loved is one of the best feelings we could ever feel. With this, we are faced with a responsibility to avoid hurting the ones who loved us. Don’t allow your lover to feel that his love is not appreciated. Find ways in order to let that person know how happy you are for being loved. Avoid the avenues of making him tired of loving you; you are not forced to love in return if it’s against your will. But if it is really love, show it so that he would know that loving you is indeed a right decision.
Love could really be a powerful word. It could mean a lot of things. We are all capable of loving and we all deserve to be loved. We just have to look closely and see if it’s really love. The indicators are mentioned above but it’s all up to us. See for yourself how love works and how it really feels. :)
---rHIeL---
Love is an essential part of life. It is the key to a happy and harmonious living. Through this, peace springs forth. When you love, understanding others can no longer be difficult. At times, we miss to see the real meaning of love, the reality about loving and the concept of being loved.
Love should not be selfish; it gives the other the freedom to do what makes him happy. Love should not be suffocating, it should make the other feel secured and not imprisoned. When you love, you don’t dominate; rather you allow the other to become who he really is. Love is not controlling, but it guides. Love seeks for the good of the other and avoids anything that could destroy the one you love. Love must not be confused with one’s own personal desires. Love is built in respect, trust and understanding. If you want things to go your way all the time and abuse the other, you don’t respect and so it is not love. When you feel doubtful of the things he does all the time, you don’t have trust and it isn’t love. If you don’t get what the other wants and you find it hard to compromise, then you don’t understand and therefore it is not love.
If you really love a person, you should respect him and avoid making him feel that his rights are stepped upon. You allow him to do the things he has to do without doubting about it. You must be confident that he’s not doing anything that could destroy both of you. On the other hand, you must be trust worthy and keep on reminding yourself that you are being trusted. Know that things can’t be at your favor all of the time. Consider what the other wants and what he needs, some things might not be clear for you but you must learn to understand. Also, do not be abusive just because you know that you are understood.
Balance is needed in any relationship; both must take part and should do their roles. When we love, we tend to do things excessively and when we don’t receive the same, we feel cheated. When you love, remember that you must let the other do his part. Don’t make love as an excuse in becoming stupid. If you feel that you are not being loved back, take time to evaluate yourself and see if you have expected too much. The person you loved might have really loved you, but you don’t seem to realize because you give so much and so you expect too much. In loving someone, you love without asking something in return hence it is sincere. When you love don’t give your all, leave something for yourself so that when you stumble, you could still have the courage to stand and become brave enough to love again.
You are indeed fortunate if you are loved. Being loved is one of the best feelings we could ever feel. With this, we are faced with a responsibility to avoid hurting the ones who loved us. Don’t allow your lover to feel that his love is not appreciated. Find ways in order to let that person know how happy you are for being loved. Avoid the avenues of making him tired of loving you; you are not forced to love in return if it’s against your will. But if it is really love, show it so that he would know that loving you is indeed a right decision.
Love could really be a powerful word. It could mean a lot of things. We are all capable of loving and we all deserve to be loved. We just have to look closely and see if it’s really love. The indicators are mentioned above but it’s all up to us. See for yourself how love works and how it really feels. :)
---rHIeL---
What is the essence of real friendship?
Friendship…
All of us are blessed to have a company as we journey in this trip of life. We don’t feel alone because we have these people who never cease to stand by our sides. These people give us the assurance that we’ll not walk all by ourselves. We share a lot of memories with them, together with the laughter and even the tears. But when could we consider these people as our friends? Who could be our real friends? What is really the essence of real friendship?
“No man is an island’ according to the song. This makes us realize that having people around us proves that we need acquaintances. They are the people whom we meet along the way, sharing simple smiles at first and then having simple talks until becoming friends. We consider them as friends because they are the ones who keep us company, joining us in our little endeavors and adventures. They laugh with us and we make funny stuffs together. Friends are actually found anywhere, as long as we only know how to interact with them. Gaining friends is actually a great thing to be done; we should learn how to communicate with others. Friends share stories with each other, having fun with each other and laughing out loud regardless of the surroundings. They are the ones whom you’re with most of the time.
Real friend on the other hand is a much heavier form of company. Friends could be found everywhere but only a few could be considered as a real one. When we say ‘real friend’, we mean someone who’s with us through our up’s and down’s. He is the one who knows who we really are, knows our negative attitudes, knows our dark secrets, and knows our shortcomings and even our failures in life. He knows almost everything about us, if not everything, and yet he continues to stand by us and accepts us regardless of our weaknesses. He understands our shortcomings, comforts us with our failures, encourages us to do good and reminds us how precious we are even though we’re not perfect. Having real friends is indeed as good as finding a treasure. You can’t fish real friends’ everyday, they come whenever we need someone true and worth relying. Real friends stay with us during our lowly days, never leaves us when we’re burdened and find ways to ease our pain. They comfort us and they share their time with us without asking for anything in return. They are the ones who respect us as well as the decisions we make. They trust us with their secrets, and they believe in us even though others refused to. They understand and they don’t easily judge. Real friendship is actually a good source of love.
The essence of real friendship doesn’t rely on the things you have in common. It might contribute to the bond, but it is not everything in any relationship. Differences could also become avenues for people to build a good friendship. It doesn’t matter if the person is poor, ugly, stupid, or whatsoever. What matters is that you understand each other, and you don’t look at these differences as hindrances in becoming friends. Status in life is not even an issue. If you are rich, it doesn’t necessarily follow that your friends should also be as rich as you are. If you are beautiful, it doesn’t guarantee that your real friends are also as beautiful as you. Everything is fair when it comes to friendship. It is not a measure of material things or even physical structures; it is a measure of loyalty, honesty, understanding, trust and respect. The friends whom you laugh with most of the time could leave you in times of trouble but real friends don’t. If you’re with your real friends, you could feel secured and you could even laugh at your own mistakes with them. You could be stupid around them, and yet not making you ashamed of who you really are. There is no such perfect friendship, relationships could be tested and some of these tests could really get so tough. All must contribute in building the strong foundation. Remember, it’s better to have a few real friends rather than having a bunch of fake ones. :)
---rHiEl---
All of us are blessed to have a company as we journey in this trip of life. We don’t feel alone because we have these people who never cease to stand by our sides. These people give us the assurance that we’ll not walk all by ourselves. We share a lot of memories with them, together with the laughter and even the tears. But when could we consider these people as our friends? Who could be our real friends? What is really the essence of real friendship?
“No man is an island’ according to the song. This makes us realize that having people around us proves that we need acquaintances. They are the people whom we meet along the way, sharing simple smiles at first and then having simple talks until becoming friends. We consider them as friends because they are the ones who keep us company, joining us in our little endeavors and adventures. They laugh with us and we make funny stuffs together. Friends are actually found anywhere, as long as we only know how to interact with them. Gaining friends is actually a great thing to be done; we should learn how to communicate with others. Friends share stories with each other, having fun with each other and laughing out loud regardless of the surroundings. They are the ones whom you’re with most of the time.
Real friend on the other hand is a much heavier form of company. Friends could be found everywhere but only a few could be considered as a real one. When we say ‘real friend’, we mean someone who’s with us through our up’s and down’s. He is the one who knows who we really are, knows our negative attitudes, knows our dark secrets, and knows our shortcomings and even our failures in life. He knows almost everything about us, if not everything, and yet he continues to stand by us and accepts us regardless of our weaknesses. He understands our shortcomings, comforts us with our failures, encourages us to do good and reminds us how precious we are even though we’re not perfect. Having real friends is indeed as good as finding a treasure. You can’t fish real friends’ everyday, they come whenever we need someone true and worth relying. Real friends stay with us during our lowly days, never leaves us when we’re burdened and find ways to ease our pain. They comfort us and they share their time with us without asking for anything in return. They are the ones who respect us as well as the decisions we make. They trust us with their secrets, and they believe in us even though others refused to. They understand and they don’t easily judge. Real friendship is actually a good source of love.
The essence of real friendship doesn’t rely on the things you have in common. It might contribute to the bond, but it is not everything in any relationship. Differences could also become avenues for people to build a good friendship. It doesn’t matter if the person is poor, ugly, stupid, or whatsoever. What matters is that you understand each other, and you don’t look at these differences as hindrances in becoming friends. Status in life is not even an issue. If you are rich, it doesn’t necessarily follow that your friends should also be as rich as you are. If you are beautiful, it doesn’t guarantee that your real friends are also as beautiful as you. Everything is fair when it comes to friendship. It is not a measure of material things or even physical structures; it is a measure of loyalty, honesty, understanding, trust and respect. The friends whom you laugh with most of the time could leave you in times of trouble but real friends don’t. If you’re with your real friends, you could feel secured and you could even laugh at your own mistakes with them. You could be stupid around them, and yet not making you ashamed of who you really are. There is no such perfect friendship, relationships could be tested and some of these tests could really get so tough. All must contribute in building the strong foundation. Remember, it’s better to have a few real friends rather than having a bunch of fake ones. :)
---rHiEl---
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